“I just want to go home. Please don’t say no.”

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A letter from David Garvey that took him a week to communicate to his family.


Thank you for all the help you are giving my family on my behalf.

Can you please also contact the HSE and say thank you to them for holding a meeting about the funding to get me home.

I’m a bit worried that I haven’t heard anything yet but to me no news is good news.

Knowing that I can’t leave the hospital like a normal human being, the way I entered, it is heartbreaking.

Having no decision making in my life is extremely hard.

Can I ask you all a favour? Please?

Can you please close your eyes and imagine lying in bed not being able to move a muscle and being hooked up to a life support machine.

Imagine when you open your eyes the first thing you see is a ceiling.

You will see that same ceiling for the next few hours until a nurse comes and moves your head.

When your head gets moved your next view is a wall with a mirror and sink. Believe me, this will be the highlight of your day until your family comes at 3pm to visit.

Now imagine you have an itch and you can’t move to scratch the itch and you can’t tell anybody because you cant talk!

You can’t even wipe your eyes if they get sore or dry, can’t move your legs if you get a cramp, you just have to put up with the pain.

Your family will try and keep your spirits up and try to make your laugh.

They will read the paper and tell jokes and tell you about their day.

That’s the hardest part - knowing that you’re not part of the family anymore.

When they leave you try and not to let them see how upset and miserable you are. That’s when your tears will come, you can’t even wipe your eyes until a nurse comes and does that for you.

I just want to go home. Please don’t say no. Please.

Please let me go back to my family for somewhat of a normal life.

Let me plan my wedding, let me have happiness!

Let me be able to make decisions about my life, just like everybody else can in there’s.

I never asked for this to happen to me but it has and I have to accept this.

It’s hard, extremely hard, but I am a tough cookie, it won’t beat me.

Thank you for reading this letter.

If I could, I would cross my fingers and toes for a good answer.

I would cross everything.

David :)


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